A lot of our confidence problems come from remembering past experiences that prove to us things are scary or from imagining future events and how they could go wrong.
The best way to build your confidence is to focus on the here and now. You cannot change the past and you cannot predict the future. Know that your past experiences were presented to you so that you could LEARN and that whatever happens in the future YOU CAN HANDLE IT!
We are all capable of being in the moment. Have you ever watched a movie that is so engrossing that you don’t notice anything else around you? Or been so engaged in a conversation that hours have flown by and you had no idea? That is being in the moment, so connected with the moment and what is happening that nothing else enters your conscious mind.
I find a helpful mantra is to say to yourself repeatedly ‘right here, right now, I am ok’. Also, become mindful of what is happening right in any moment, FOCUS on every little detail of the now. For example, if you are riding, focus on the sound of your horse’s hoofbeats, their breathing, the creak of the leather saddle, the feel of the reins in your hands, your heartbeat, your breathing, the texture of your clothes on your skin. Do what you need to and bring yourself into the NOW.
To you and your confidence,
Caroline Andrews - Horse Rider Confidence Specialist